Sex toys for couples, from vibrating rings and finger vibes to strap-ons, plus advice on bringing toys into a relationship.
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Best for Couples and foreplay: it goes where your hand already is.
A finger-worn vibrator with ten settings, light enough to use during partnered sex or foreplay.
Best for Couples who want a vibrating ring a partner can control by phone.
A silicone vibrating ring with app control, so either partner can change the settings.
Best for Remote-control play and long build-ups before sex.
A remote-controlled vibrator that sits in underwear, so a partner can control it during foreplay.
The best couples’ toys are the ones that fit into sex you already have rather than replacing part of it. Good first choices are a finger vibrator (it goes where your hand already is), a vibrating ring (worn during penetration) or a remote-controlled wearable (good for teasing and foreplay). Strap-ons and larger toys are better once you have talked through what you both want.
If you haven’t raised toys with your partner yet, start with how to introduce sex toys to your partner without awkwardness. For one husband’s account of how that conversation went, read How I convinced my wife to try sex toys.
Shared toys need cleaning between partners and between anal and vaginal use. Our sex toy cleaning guide covers that.
Buying guide
The best toys for foreplay, from finger vibes and remote wearables to a couples ring, a massage wand, a lube warmer and game cards, plus how to use them together.
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How-to
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